Last week I was the new kid in a new environment, completely out of my element. I was sitting in a meeting of the local gem and mineral club and was looking through a hand lens at a rock specimen. A woman at the front of the room said, "Put the lens up to your eye and bring the rock up to it." Suddenly a flash of anger shocked through my body and, while I managed to shut my mouth, I'm sure my body language telegraphed my negative reaction.
I was shocked at the intensity of my feeling ... like standing at the blackboard in the second grade with the teacher scolding me for my wrong answer to a math question. As I thought about it later, I heard a little genie sitting on my shoulder asking, "Perhaps it's time to do a little self-examination?" So, when I received the latest issue of the New and Improved newsletter with its article about the Four Agreements, I particularly homed in on "Don't take anything personally." What I had felt was a personal attack, a reminder of my incompetencies, was simply one person trying to help another and my insecurities got in the way of building a relationship.
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